a bootate

so, my new realization of the 20-something dating world comes from my own recent experiences as well as the recent experiences of my friends. my realization is that boys in their late 20s have come up with a new form of booty-calling. i mean, i think i was pretty great at handling a booty call; i always said no. it was easier when we were younger, and a booty call was obvious. boys called after a night at the bar or at a party, and i simply ignored their calls. now, however, boys are a little trickier or maybe a little more classy, or potentially, they're a little more needy. Because boys these days, don't just booty-call; they bootate. this is a combo word--a combination of booty call and date (yes, it's casually lamo, so if there's a better name for this new move, please offer suggestions). here's the deal. boys call, invite us to dinner, and then expect to stay over or at least come in for a little bit. it might not always be dinner...it could be lunch or a rockies game or happy hour or a movie or a walk in the park or even a weekend in the mountains. the tricky part is that in every way, the outings look and feel like dates, and they happen repeatedly. so myself and my friends seem to get wrapped up in the dating aspect while the boys are just wrapped up in having someone for the day/evening/weekend and the whole night. the question is...why do late-twenty something boys need the date at all? can they really just be thinking of the booty? i mean, they spend the time getting to know us, and they even spend the money to take us on fake dates...they invest, and yet can't commit. are the fake dates just a way to justify the booty call? are the fake dates a way to satisfy their emotional needs without having to commit to a real relationship? potentially, boys in their late twenties feel that the repeated bootate is less complicated than an actual relationship. unfortunately, i'm not sure if the same rings true for the girls on the bootate. girls, myself and friends included, seem to view the repeated bootates as more confusing and thus more complicated than an actual relationship. and i think for that reason, boys and their bootates are selfish.
final thought: i think it would be helpful if, when boys asked us out, they let us know, up front, if it's a date or a bootate. this way, there is no confusion, and we get to decide if we want to ignore or accept the call.